With the New Year upon us many of us are making our resolutions and intentions.
“I want to lose 10 pounds.”
“I want to find my soul mate.”
“I want to make lots of money this year.”
Since the universe is so precise on what it gives back to us, when we say, “I want…”, it will give us just that…a continued state of wanting.
You see, wanting communicates to you and the universe that you do not have something. It says that you are in a state of not having it but wishing you did. It’s a perpetual state. And in fact, you can never get what you want, while you are just wanting it.
But how come Billy Bob manifested that million dollars he wanted?
Well, Mr. Bob switched from a state of wanting to another state. Perhaps a state of getting.
Let’s look at romance, my favorite topic! I’ve been wanting to meet someone. I just moved to a new town and have been thinking it would be great to enjoy these wonderful restaurants here with a date. Many of my friends are probably sick and tired of me saying that I want to go on dates!
Well, that’s what I’ve been getting…more of wanting to go on dates!
So, I decided to change my state of wanting into a state of doing. I first created a vision board which got me into the feeling place of desiring a life with a partner. Then I felt inspired to take action and joined Match.com! I figured, what the heck, it could be fun!
Dang the floodgates have opened and I’m actually going on dates! I’m now in a state of having. (Which of course is bringing about more contrast which will help me better define what I’m wanting, which I’ll switch to desiring, which will lead to doing, which will lead to having, which will lead to more contrast, which will lead to wanting, which I’ll switch to desiring, which will lead to doing, which will lead to having…you get the point of how we evolve!)
In this example it may look like I have gotten what I’d originally wanted, but it’s actually that I’ve gotten what I set out to getting.
Check out some definitions of want: “To be without; lack. To be destitute or needy. A defect of character; a fault. To be absent, to be deficient or lacking; to fail; not to be sufficient; to fall or come short; to lack.”
YUCK!
Now look at the word desire: “To express a wish for request. The natural longing that is excited by the enjoyment or the thought of any good, and impels to action or effort its continuance or possession; an eager wish to obtain or enjoy.”
I don’t know about you, but I’ve noticed over and over again that when I make that subtle shift from wanting to desiring, things start showing up. I’ll feel inspired to call this person, Google this website, buy that training, join this company…
So, what have you been wanting for a long time now? Imagine consciously switching that wanting into a state of desiring. Notice the shift in your energy. I encourage you to play with this for a while and pay attention to what shows up.
Let us know what you think of all this, what you’re ready to move from wanting to having, and what you’ve seen works for you by leaving a comment below.
Thanks so much!
14 Comments
Great post Sue, I agree, Let's switch from “wanting” to “desiring and having” … and one more thing and I don't mean to be corrective of your spelling or grammar, but the word associated with weight should be “lose” with on “o” … the word “loose” is what descibes how your clothes fit after you “lose” the weight, they all fit “loose”-ly !! Don't overdo it on the Match.com and all the dating, I'd hate for guys to start thinking you're a “loose” woman!!
I love this post Sue! I learned this from Bob Stevens, author of Conscious Language. He teaches the effect our language has on our consciousness and reality. One of the basic word shifts he teaches is changing Want to Desire or Having.
fascinating distinction Sue! i will totally pay attention to this now.
Hey Scott! Thanks for the comments!! I did some editing! 😉
Great Taz, can't wait to see what happens for you!
I've never heard of Bob Stevens, I'll have to check him out, thanks Debbie!
Sue your awesome, you and I are definately on the same page here, i only recently discovered the state of “WANT” myself, Thank you so much for the great tip of Desire, I have been wondering how to get out of the Want Trap.
Michael
“, Wow! Great point there Sue. Now I'll stop wanting things. Thanks for this hope it will do good for me too..
I like to use the word 'intention' rather than 'want' or 'desire.' When I have an intention, I am making a choice – there is no question about it, no chance of it not happening.
Hi Sue! This is the my first time on your site, but I wanted to say that I really enjoyed this post (and I'll be back for future posts!). I think there are a lot of people out there who miss out on this distinction of “want” and “desire”……it made me think about this big movement that “The Secret” has created, except I think a lot of people are missing the point. I have friends and colleagues who are convinced The Secret doesn't work because they told the universe what they wanted, but nothing happened. But to simply think about it in terms of want and desire makes much more sense. When you want something, you are expecting something from someone or something else – but when you desire something, like the definition in your post, you are “impel(ed) to action or effort.” That's really when the reward comes, I think 🙂
Thanks so much for visiting and commenting, Eran! It's amazing how many people have told me that they think “The Secret” (Law of Attraction) doesn't work. Hopefully we can help people know that they can create what they want and live the life of freedom they desire and intend!
Absolutely, Mark! Thank you for reminding us of this word, intention. Every morning I start my day by saying, “Today, wherever I go, whomever I'm with, whatever I'm doing it is my intention to look for reasons to feel good.” It totally works!
Awesome post Sue, too many people remain in that state of wanting and never move on to receiving… but it's an awesome shift that is easier and easier to create the more you DO. Good to connect here 🙂
Nicholas Klein
“The Master of Rapid Residual Recruiting”
http://www.AuthorityNetworker.com
Awesome post Sue, too many people remain in that state of wanting and never move on to receiving… but it's an awesome shift that is easier and easier to create the more you DO. Good to connect here 🙂
Nicholas Klein
“The Master of Rapid Residual Recruiting”
http://www.AuthorityNetworker.com
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