Do you know what you want in a relationship?
So often we REALLY know what we DON’T want in a relationship. Especially when we think of all those past relationships and those “you know who’s” that stole our hearts. This makes finding true love really stressful. We get to the point where we focus so strongly on what we don’t want in a partner, we end up attracting that over and over again with every person we date.
What I discovered is that at first this was disguised. That next guy was nothing like the one I had been with prior, but sooner or later it came out. That thing that bugged me about the past guy was showing up in this one too. It may have looked a little different, but sure enough, the essence of it was the same.
Does this sound familiar?
When I learned of the Law of Attraction, it became apparent that I was creating this because I was focusing on it. So, I realized I had the power to create something different. I had to decide what I actually DO want in a partner. My friends suggested I make a list.
I hated the concept of making a list for what I wanted in a love relationship. In fact, it took me over 10 years after I learned about writing a list, to actually do it!
But let me tell you, once you do get that clarity of what you want in a partner down on paper, it’s like the heavens open. The whole process will be so much easier.
Have you decided what you DO want (and need) in a partner?
If not, it is time for you to make your LIST too!
In my book I give you lots of ways of doing this, but for our purposes here, we are going to start with a list. This list will be all the qualities you really desire in a mate.
There are many ways to write a list.
This is a picture of a list I wrote in 2000! It was 2 pages and had crazy categories! It is now published in my friend, Sasha’s book, To-Do List: From Buying Milk to Finding a Soul Mate, What Our Lists Reveal About Us
You could use categories:
- Physical
- Emotional
- Recreational
- Spiritual
- Family
- Career
- Mindset
- Wellness
You could be more general: List how you want to feel when you are with a partner….
You could write a list of your values: And list which values your partner must hold important as well…
Since we are always evolving and always changing, it is important to revisit your list often to see if it still holds true to your heart. You can add and take away things that may have changed in your desire and needs.
Take some time, shut out the rest of the world, and let it pour out. You NEED to do this, trust me. Aren’t you tired of constantly attracting the wrong ones?
Have a blast with this list.